I have a list of subjects I want to write about and then I go and read an article like this and I have this gut reaction (shocker) and I have to say something about it.
Based on my very first comment (woo hoo…. thank you world-turned-upside-down) I may need to rethink a “wait and see” approach before having Moo tested for ADHD. However, before I go spending a gazillion dollars on a specialist I decided to do some quick research to find some online ADHD tests to see what the questions were and if Moo fit any of them. My first thought is that if Moo does have ADHD (which she may not) she will have the Inattentive type.
Side Note: There are now three types of ADHD instead of the two (ADD/ADHD) that I grew up with. Someday I’ll do a great big post about the different types and what is going on in the brain. It’s just not going to be today. In the meantime, go check out this post by The Distracted Mom. She lays it out really nicely.
Okay, back to Moo. So I go and look at some quick online tests. It’s simple, if you answer yes to 5 or more of these questions then you have ADHD. (it’s really not that simple but you get the gist.) At first glance, Moo doesn’t answer one of them. I also think there are a ton of more symptoms that aren’t addressed especially when it comes to girls. So now I search “ADHD test for Girls”.
I still don’t find anything that sounds like Moo but what I do find is a list that sounds an awful lot like me. The Ultimate ADHD Test for Teenage Girls from ADDitude Magazine. In fact, I answered yes to every single question. And then I started to cry. I was diagnosed so long ago now so I don’t know why these things bother me so much. I feel like I had been crying out for help since I was 7 and no one could help me. Every day you wonder what is wrong with you, why can’t you be like everyone else. And way back in the olden times (as Moo likes to call it) no one could give me an answer. And once I finally had some sort of an answer, it was “Here, take this pill. Don’t let the door hit you on your way out”.
When I think about all the things I could have done differently, things that have haunted me my whole life (See #39) I get angry and sad. There was so much unnecessary pain. This is what I want to protect my girls from as much as I can. Moo and Boo need to make mistakes and learn from them. I’m not talking about being a helicopter mom. But as their mom, it is my job and responsibility to make sure they have the skills and resources they need to have successful lives and be able to handle anything that comes their way.
At some point I hope to make peace with my childhood and lack of the correct assistance from educators and health care professionals. I mean IT WAS SO FREAKING OBVIOUS!
Thankfully, I now have a lot of experience and knowledge to help my girlies in the ways I should have been helped. And right now, that’s all that really matters.
Thanks for taking the time to read this. Chat with you all later.
What’s distracting me?
Window treatments! I spent way too much time trying to figure out window treatments for the 5 windows and 2 glass doors I have in my tiny living room when I should have been working. Not to mention the interior decorating rabbit hole it created. I think I liked at least 5 design pages on Facebook.
What’s distracting you?